There are two possible approaches to a situation or a person: we either respond or we react. Reaction happens when we give in to our impulses, we act on the immediate feeling which is a byproduct of our unprocessed and primitive thought that emerges about the event or the person. For example like "this is unfair" "he is being unfair to me".. First of all there is no universal law that says the situations must be fair or people must be fair to you.. And then this thought pops up a raw emotion which creates the IMPULSE to act on it so eventually we REACT. However response is different than reaction in a way of difference in our thought process stage.. When the primitive thought comes and when we question that thought and put it in a rational filter, when we approach to the issue with a wider perspective and consider all the angles to look at it then our emotions become tamed as well as a result of it and our impulses are calmed down so that we are able to RESPOND in a mature rational and healthy way. So in short: WE RESPOND WITH OUR THOUGHTS, WE REACT WITH OUR EMOTIONS. Think of the last time you approached a stiuation or a person; did you respond or did you react? Master your emotions by questioning your thoughts, questioning your possible cognitive distortions and so be able to take responsibility of your actions as well as yourself in everyway by staying Self-Aware then you set yourself free... 
ELMIRA 26/12/19
ELMIRA 26/12/19
Our thought patterns effect how we feel... Events dont make us feel or people dont make us feel stuff... The way we approach to people and to events determine how we feel.. Our thought patterns effect the way we approach to things, and our beliefs effect our thought patterns so they effect our values as well. We need to question our beliefs if they are actual facts and little adjustments will change our thought patterns to a healthier way will lead the way to healthier feelings.. Always remember there is always an alternative way to approach to look at the events/people so why not try that? Elmira 26/12/19
Once you learn the feeling of unconditional love no matter what happens you can never unlearn it, selfless love is the best feeling that allows personal growth.. Pure love is not about giving, taking, faking, jealousy or sex, it is something tantral and just feeling thankful and innerpeace for no reason except the energies surrounds you, empowering you. It starts to reflect into every part of your life, to the world surrounding you, to all beings surrounding you. Whomever, whatever or so gives you, introduces you to this feeling just be grateful without questioning. People, objects come and go - Past is history but tomorrow always remains a mystery.. - but the gifts they have presented us remains within ourselves, embrace those.Embrace the feelings you are feeling right now, (life is full of surprises and always goes on even without you wanting to be an active participant, it doesnt let you be passive). I am feeling blessed with memories and joy, happiness and being able to feel pure Love which is a bliss and a gift just by on its own let alone its side joys of great memories and serenity and self fulfillment. Elmira 06/11/19
